Thursday, May 25, 2017

What do you know now that you wish you had known at age 20? Part 2

A few days back you read my advice to myself at age 20.  Here is Brenda's take on it.

Things I would tell myself about life if I could speak with my 20 year old self.....

Don't spend so much time thinking about what other people will think of the way you look, in actuality.....folks aren't looking at you. :)

Show more hospitality and don't be afraid that my "things" (home, cooking, etc.)  don't measure up to theirs......the things that folks remember is how you showed love to them.

You just can't please some folks, no matter what  you say or do.....just love them anyway.

When things, relationships, don't go as I think that they should, don't stress so much over them.  In looking back God has used those hard people/times to knock rough edges off of me in my own life.

When things don't go as I think that they should, it's because God has a far better plan for me, that I most likely won't realize for several years.

Marriage won't always be holding hands and love letters.  Decide that you are committed to make it work, and love unconditionally, forgive quickly, and laugh together a whole lot. :)

If your spouse has a crazy idea of where he wants you to go, say yes!  Make tons of wonderful memories and go on great adventures when you can.

Accept forgiveness and restore relationships as quickly as you can.  Don't give time for bitterness to grow.

Let things get dusty in your home, spend more time playing with your kids, than trying to show that I can keep things in order.

Seek God's plan for your particular life, live your life using what gifts that God has given to you and stop beating yourself up that you can't do what others can do.

Show love and acceptance to others, even those that are difficult to be around.

As an introvert, it is OK for you to get the rest that you need.

It is OK to say "No" to things that you aren't called to do.  You don't have to feel guilty about saying no.  

Say "Yes", and serve when you are asked to do things that you are called to do.

Pray for your kids, it's the best thing that you can do for them.  Show unconditional love for each one.  Don't try to run their lives but let them know that you are there for them and can be counted on for love and support no matter what.

Call your Mom and Dad more as they age, and let them know how much you love them.

 Pray that God would give you ears to hear His voice and a heart that desires to be obedient to Him as He guides your life.

Show God's love at every opportunity.

I could go on and on.  These are the things that come to mind off the top of my head.   It was fun to think about this.  

So what's YOUR advice?


  1. No matter how scary, how painful, how confusing or even how wonderful: God's got it. Always. "Do not fear...."

  2. No matter how scary, how painful, how confusing or even how wonderful: God's got it. Always. "Do not fear...."