I stumbled across something that is too good NOT to share. A young parent was concerned because passersby were always complimenting his young daughter on her beauty. As mighty be expected, after hearing this for some time, the young girl not only believed it but unabashedly let it swell her pride.
Yes, we can do that, but even I am shocked that it can happen in a youngster under 5 years of age. But the parent asked for some guidance on how to deal with this pride-in-her-beauty challenge. The grandmom wrote the following.
“I am still thinking of our conversation last night. What a wonderful little lady you have been trusted with to raise and what an excellent job you are doing.
One thing for sure, she is a beauty and G^d made her that way. It is always important for her to know that her father thinks she is a beauty. As she grows up, she will be drawn to guys that admire her and we would want her to be drawn to someone wonderful like you :).
G^d has given her such wonderful qualities and, like it or not, people are drawn to pretty people. They seek them out to talk with them. Folks are always going to be drawn to her so G^d can use her beauty to reflect Himself.
I think if you can get her to focus on those around her, helping, caring, serving, encouraging, sharing, etc. she will not be thinking so much about appearance. She is a delightful little girl and I'm not just saying that because she is my granddaughter.
There are so many things in which to encourage kids. She is still quite young. At this age you might write all these things down that she is saying because in a few years you will most likely be laughing about them. She is wonderful and she has two wonderful parents who love her. You are both doing a great job. I know it is hard not to be critiquing your own parenting but look at the amazing children that you have raised so far. Don't be too hard on yourself. You are doing far better than I did as a parent.
G^d picked out exactly the parents for the kids that could do the best job for them.”
Pretty good observations and advice, eh? Now I need to go and apply these principles!