Sunday, April 13, 2014

4, 3, 2, 1, 1

Brenda and I, this last weekend, attended a briefing for a CRU Summer Project to Rome, IT.  We will be going with and supporting a team of 10 College Students.  One of the students had suggested that we get to know each other by sharing:

4 people that have affected your life (& why).

3 events that have changed your life. 

2 beliefs that you have (not necessarily theological).

1 wound (current struggle).

1 goal (summer/future).
It was effective!   It was fascinating to hear people's stories.   I learned a lot about our group.  A few patterns emerged, even in such a small group.  I'll mention a few of these in a future post, but for now, if someone asked you about your 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, what would you say?


  1. I used this last night in our small group, except we called it 3-2-1-Share and only did three influential people not in the room, two life changing events, and one struggle, wound, goal or hope. It worked beautifully. We learned a lot about each other and had fun in the process. Thanks a lot for the ideas.

    The only problem I had with it was that I left the room several times, but no one got the hint and said my name. :-)

  2. Did anyone dare share a wound? That's prob a good one to keep in.

    Glad you could use it.

  3. We had two visitors to our small group last night, which is why I added the "outs" for the last question. No one really shared a wound, but I was surprised how many people tied them all together (e.g., an AA friend, helped them stop drinking, which is now one of their goals to be an AA sponsor).

    In hindsight, I probably would have added "not your spouse or parents" to the first question.

    Very helpful, though. Thanks.

  4. Excluding parents and spouse is good sometimes.. but if you really want to delve deep, I'd leave them in... Interesting what you can learn.